You may have come to this website because of something you struggle with in your life. You might have been wrestling with these issues for a while, even worked with a counsellor or a therapist and yet they continue to affect your life.
In addition to focusing on ourselves and our current struggle, there is great insight to be gained from opening our minds and hearts to a bigger picture. By including our families and our ancestors using the Constellation method, we have a chance to go deeper into who we are and to understand how their stories impact our lives today.
When you choose to work through an issue – either during a workshop or a one-to-one session, I will help you to define your aim or your intention for the piece of work. Then we will create in the here and now the ‘living map’ that is a constellation. Participants or placeholders (mats or small objects) are set up to “represent” parts of yourself, members of your family or other aspects of the issue.
By witnessing or taking part in this “living” representation, a new picture starts to unfold: a new way of looking at events and people. It is often very different from the usual family story. Events that formed the history of the family are given their true weight and significance. Sometimes the connections with people who have never really had their place in the family history become surprisingly supportive, deep, and moving. Other times it becomes clear you need to step back from the traumatic past events and focus on creating a safer place for yourself to heal in the present.
“Forgiveness is when we give up the hope of having had a better past”
Rather than just describing someone as ‘cold’ or ‘he was never there’ or ‘she was an alcoholic’, the larger story can reveal itself, as the constellation gives you the courage to look with an open heart. When our families haven’t had a chance to come to terms with their history, the effects are carried down the generations, creating difficulties with loving and living. The strategies we developed to cope with this turn out to hurt us and those around us, and prevent us from being who we long to be.
In the constellation deep feelings can find their true place with the people who originally experienced them or they can be lovingly released. When this happens there is less need to hang on to those feelings (e.g. depression, rage, weakness, failure or terror, or a sense of not belonging). Hanging on to these feelings and experiences may have been an attempt to keep someone who was excluded from your family system in your heart.
You then gain strength, energy and clarity to find the next step on your path, and hopefully feel surer of your place in the world.
Family Constellations and Mindfulness Practice. One-day workshops in Stroud, Gloucestershire.
All workshops are expected to commence at 9.30 and finish at 5.30.
Co-facilitated by Sheila McCarthy Dodd and Clare Crombie. For more information visit www.carinascotland.com/clare-crombie.
£85 for those wanting to develop their own constellation, £60 for those attending as representatives.
For more information you can contact Sheila by email firstname.lastname@example.org or by phone 07875 708604.
You may need support as a carer and family living with someone who experiences mental health difficulties or any other long term health issue. This may involve meeting individually or as a group, with Karl and Annie.
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